A Sad Story - Death of an Unborn Baby

This is a very sad story, a true story of my girl friend who has struggled to get through some difficulties to give birth a baby of her and her loved one.

All of us have prayed hard for her and her unborn baby, that they can able to pass through all the difficulties together. Unfortunately, my girl friend faced the harsh reality that her unborn baby die after 4 days of continuous bleeding.

I was asking the unborn baby "Why did you not come with happy cries but made your mother's soul weep painful cries? Just before your precious eyes could open, your soul could feel the essence of this world, but why did you not take that breath?"

I know not everything in this world comes sweet and with a smile, but this incident will definitely made my girl friend's life full of scars and thorns, as she has lost two unborn babies within these two years. I know nothing much we can help and do for her, but just hoping that she will get through all the darkness and smile again.

No Pain No Gain

Got this meaningful message from one of the email forwarded by my friend.

No Pain No Gain… Accept the Pain, Future will be Fruitful…

Don't feel the work you are doing is pain, because there will be always a reason for that pain or work. So face the pain, for the pain you face, there will be definitely happiness a head.

Science and Mathematics in English

Frankly speaking, I'm very very sadden with the changes of Science and Mathematics which proposed to teach in English back to Bahasa Malaysia again by our current government.

As for me, I took BA (Hons) Accountancy and Finance after my secondary school. Guess what? Some of the basic subjects we have actually already learnt them in Bahasa Malaysia during our secondary school, and it in English once we entered College or University, and we study it again, don't you think it is very funny and time consuming? Moreover, our brain has actually assimilated the Bahasa Malaysia, and we might need some times to get use with English starting from zero again. Not even now, I can't really speak a fluent English, I guess many of them out there are having the same problem as me too, especially those graduate from a so called "Kebangsaan" seconday School, what's a shame right?

My personal opinion is English teaching for Science and Mathematics would be a brilliant idea to make our next generation to be more successful, intelligent, and able to compete with outbounds. Anyhow, Bahasa Malaysia is still a very important subject in our country as if we fail it, we will never get any certificate, so I guess teaching of Science and Mathematics in English still does not affect Bahasa Malaysia at all. Am I right to say so?

Anyway, I wonder why not just make the schools in certain vicinity to teach these subjects in English and some in Bahasa Malaysia? Then, we, the rakyat, will be the one decide on what language to be taught for!

Six Millionaire Traits that We Can Adopt

Millionaires have more in common with each other than just their bank accounts - for some millionaires, striking it rich took courage, salesmanship, vision and passion. Find out which traits are most common to the seven-figure bank account set, and what you can do to hone some of these skills in your own life.

1. Independent Thinking
Millionaires think differently. Not just about money, about everything. The time and energy everybody else spends attempting to conform, millionaires spend creating their own path. Since thoughts impact actions, people who want to be wealthy should think in a way that will get them to that goal.

Just look at David Geffen. A self-made millionaire with $4.5 billion to his name in 2009, this American record executive and film producer was college dropout, but made millions founding record agencies and signed some of the most prominent musicians of the 1970s and '80s. Although he didn't take what many assume to be the usual path to success, his tireless work ethic and sense of personal conviction about artists' potential allowed him to rack up a sizable fortune.

2. Vision
Millionaires are creative visionaries with a positive attitude. In other words, wealthy people not only have big dreams, they also believe they will come true. As such, wealth seekers should set lofty goals and not be afraid of uncharted territories.

Bill Gates, the world's richest person in 2009, did just that. The American chairman of Microsoft (NYSE:MSFT) is one of the founding entrepreneurs who brought personal computers to the masses. Gates jumped into the personal computers business in 1975 and held on tight, creating Microsoft Windows in 1985. When consumers began to bring computers into their homes, Gates was ready to profit from this new age.

3. Skills
Writer Dennis Kimbro interviewed successful people to determine the traits they had in common for his book, "Think and Grow Rich" (1992). He found that they concentrated on their area of excellence. Millionaires also tend to partner with others to supplement their weaker skills. If you don't know what you are good at, poll friends and family. Use training and mentors to refine your strong skills.

4. Passion
Billionaire investing guru Warren Buffett says "Money is a by-product of something I like to do very much." Enjoying your work allows you to have the discipline to work hard at it every day. People who interact with money for a living, bankers for example, often love creating new deals and persuading others to complete a transaction. But finding your dream job may take time. The average millionaire doesn't find it until age 45, and tends to be 54 (on average) before becoming a millionaire.

5. Investment
Millionaires are willing to sacrifice time and money to achieve their goals. They are willing to take a risk now for the opportunity of achieving something greater in the future. Investing may include securities or starting a business - either way, it is a step toward achieving great financial rewards. Start investing now.

6. Salesmanship
Millionaires are constantly presenting their ideas and persuading others to buy into them. Good salesmen are oblivious to critics and naysayers. In other words, they don't take "no" for an answer. Millionaires also have good social skills. In fact, when writer T. Harv Eker analyzed the results of a survey of 753 millionaires for his book, "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind" (2005), he found social skills were more important than IQ. Just look at Donald Trump. His fortune has fluctuated over the years, but his ability to sell himself - whether as a TV personality or as the force behind a line of neckties - has always brought him back among the ranks of celebrity millionaires.

* The above article credited to investopedia.com *

Fluent English Speaker!

I know I can't really speak fluent English, yet don't laugh at me, I'm trying my best to improve my oral communication skills in English now, and targeted to be a fluent English speaker in one to two years time =P

Well! All of us know that when children start learn to talk, they actually learn by subconsciously copying the adults. So, when they do start trying the words out, their language and accent would be similar to that of the adults around them. So, similarly, if anyone of us want to become fluent in English, it would be a good idea to listen to it as much as possible. Watch English movies and soaps, listen to English music or even buy a CD of novels read out in English that we could listen to. The more we listen to the language, more comfortable you become with it. Subconsciously, our brain begins to assimilate this language so that when we use it, we would be more likely to use it correctly with only a little accent.

But, listening alone would not take us all the way. We have to practice too. Start reading out English stories and news aloud. Find a friend who would also like to improve his/her English and practice together. When we watch a movie, how about re-enacting a scene from it for friends or family or do this in front of the mirror.

Conclusion, listen and speak more!

Monday Morning Struggles

It's Monday again! Monday morning is just hard for me to get up =(

Think Rich to Become Rich

T. Harv Eker, the multimultimillionaire (this is how he describes himself), he taught us to think rich to become rich in his book "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind".

Some of the wealth principles that support his idea taken in his exact words are:

Your income can grow only to the extent you do.

If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.

Money is a result; your weight is a result. We live in a world of cause and effect.

When the subconscious mind must choose between deeply rooted emotions and logic, emotions will almost always win.

If your motivation for acquiring money or success comes from a none supportive root such as fear, anger, or the need to "prove" yourself, your money will never bring you happiness.

You can choose to think in ways that will support you in your happiness and success instead of ways that don’t.

Rich people believe “I create my life.” Poor people believe “Life happens to me.”

Money is extremely important in the areas in which it works, and extremely unimportant in the areas in which it doesn’t.

When you are complaining, you become a living, breathing ‘crap magnet’.

There is no such thing as a really rich victim!

Rich people play the money game to win. Poor people play the money game not to lose.

There’s nothing wrong with getting a steady paycheck, unless it interferes with your ability to earn what you’re worth. There’s the rub. It usually does.

Financial Genius

You don’t have to be a genius to be wealthy. Although high IQ definitely helps, it is more important to have emotional intelligence in order to get rich.

Well! All of us learn the simple arithmetic in primary schools. For example, you certainly know “8 = 10-2”. There is really no challenging mathematics involved in personal finance. Simple plus and minus equation is all you need.

The two most essential equations in personal finance are:

S = I – E
Where S = Savings, I = Income, E = Expenses

and

NW = A – L
Where NW = Net Worth, A = Assets, L = Liabilities

In the quest of acquiring wealth, one must have a positive S all the time. Only through smart utilization of your savings can ensure that your net worth will increase over time.

* The above philosophy credited to the book "Top Money Tips For Malaysians" *

100% at Work

I always give 100% at work:

13% on Monday
22% on Tuesday
26% on Wednesday
35% on Thursday
and
4% on Friday =P

Monday Blues

I'm having a serious case of "Mondayitis" today after an unforgettable weekend spent! =P

Have a great Monday everyone out there!

Driving??

Okies! I'm going to blog something weird about me here, and I'm sure you're going to laugh at me! I'm 25 and coming 26 soon, and I know this is a bit weird that I have my driving license but I still not really know how to drive, and I have this deep rooted fear of driving =S

My closed one has been forcing me to drive his manual Myvi since last month, and I always told him that I'm still not ready to drive anywhere yet and giving lots of excuse for not to drive.

Actually I'm seriously tried to learn how to drive last week, but I was still so freaked out and couldn't get out of my neighbourhood =(

I guess the fear deep inside me is still holding me back from driving.. Sad..

Pop Music Instrument

Guess what am I doing now?

Daa.. Daaa... Daaaaaaaaaa... --> Listening some pop music instrument during work time!

Guess you mind interested on it too =) If yes, you may click on the picture below for it!

Actually it is good to have some nature therapy for our soul sometime when we're bored, tension or down =P

Enjoy it with me! Cheers!

My Blog Shops!

Sorry for not updating my blog for quite some times. Guess where have I been lately? Hehe.. I been trying to make some pocket money with my dear through our blog shops =P

Yes, our blog shops been struggling more than a month, and yes, yes yes yes, my dear and I did make some pocket money through it in a month time, although it not a big money, it's just about RM100.00, but we feel happy that at least we earn something from it =P

Honestly, there’s hardly to have enough exposure for our blog shops, so guys, do help us promote our blog shops ya =P

Cheers! Have a good day, everyone!

OMG!! I'm blogging again!

Oh my god!! I'm blogging again!!

Oh yeah, I'm blogging here again after two months time since my last blog dated 19 July 2008, just because of my darling, Jessey Jie.. =P

Miracle Man Walks Again!

Peng Shu Lin's body was cut in two by a lorry in 1995, it was little short of a medical miracle that he lived. It took a team of more than 20 doctors to save his life. His skin was grafted from his head to seal his torso. And the legless Mr Peng was left only 78cm (2ft 6in) tall.

Bedridden for years, doctors in Chin a had little hope that he would ever be able to live anything like a normal life again. But recently, he began exercising his arms, building up the strength to carry out everyday chores such as washing his face and brushing his teeth.

Doctors at the Chin a Rehabilitation Research Centre in Beijing found out about Mr Peng's plight late last year and devised a plan to get him up walking again. They came up with an ingenious way to allow him to walk on his own, creating a sophisticated egg cup-like casing to hold his body with two bionic legs attached to it.

He has been taking his first steps around the centre with the aid of his specially adapted legs and a resized walking frame. Mr Peng, who has to learn how to walk again, is said to be delighted with the device. What a Self Confidence! Great!

See a sort of inexplicable enthusiasm, firm confidence and indomitable tenacity in his face?! Marvelous?! For people who make themselves in distress because of futile, frivolous and trivial reasons? Let's take him as your motivation and earn myriad lessons from him.

My Qing Ming Festival

I joined my family members for visiting my grandparents' graves at the Nirvana Memorial Park in Semenyih, Selangor on March 30, 2008.

It was great Sunday for us to "sweep the graves" of our grandparents, a great Sunday for us to hold memorial ceremony for our loved one. And, it was a time for happy communion for my family members.

Although my grandparents have left us about 7-8 years time, we still miss them a lot. Sometimes, I would think how would it be if they're still here? =)

I miss you a lot, grandpa and grandma..

Beautiful scenery from my grandparents' grave

There are hundreds of families visiting and sweeping their ancestors’ graves

Finding my perfect work-life balance..

I do have a job, you do have a job and everyone do have a job, but how many of them are finding their job interesting, and how many of them can ensure their job doesn't take over their life, so that they have time for other interests?

I'm finding my perfect work-life balance, I guess everyone is the same, am I right?

How many of them dreaming Google working environment? I guess everyone do, right? It’s good to know you can get away from your desk if you need to, there’s a coffee shop, a chillout area, you can chat with your colleagues, and then return to your work after the short break. And, there's an onside dentist and chiropractor, you can just pop down there without taking a morning or afternoon off for an appointment. Or even an onside gym, a climbing wall, swimming pool, tennis courts and a variety of other diversions when you're ready to take a break? Google office cool right?

For me? Work-life balance is very appealing. I hope I have a fulfilling career without doing excessive hours, and of course I will put in extra hours if I required, I know there’s lots of give and take, I hope my efforts, my hard works will be recognised and rewarded. I hope I will be gaving a day off for my birthday, some subsidising expenses like study sponsorship, handphone or travelling allowances as such, and staging company fun days or company trips where my family or my closed one are invited. Haha.. ^^

Should I accept or decline?

I gave my one-week notice, by handing my letter of resignation to my boss and I feel relieved, because I think the hard part is over, yet I've promised my boss to stay for one month further for them to look for the replacement.

While waiting the excitement of looking and starting a new job that replace the anxiety of quitting my present job during one month time, my boss messes up me by making me a counteroffer, which slightly a bit higher than what I'm having currently, asking me to reconsider, and telling me that I can expect to learn much more than what I'm doing currently. But what keep me in mind that they are likely to make a counteroffer much more for their benefit than mine. They might be making a counteroffer only to take advantage of me, until they find a cheaper or more dedicated replacement, am I right? Should I stay or should I go?

Most of the career advisors advised it’s not a good idea to accept a counteroffer and I agreed so. "Why did they wait until I resigned, to offer me what I’m really worth to them?" I asked myself. And, once I've made it clear that I want to jump ship, my loyalty will be in question to them too.

Anyway, I just don't feel like reconsider once I've make up my mind to resign my present job. I think I should land a new job with more pay and growth potential for myself. Am I right?

Happy New Year!

"Happy New Year!" January 1 marks the end of a period of remembrance of a particular passing year and that greeting will be said and heard for at least the first couple of weeks in January.

It's new year, a new year filled with hopes, aspirations and joy, let's embrace the dawn of a new beginning..

I must work really hard this year for achieving my dreams I want in my life. I guess, err mm.. I must not only work really hard but must also work really smart. Yes! I will see my dreams, my goals for life continue to become realities! ^^

It's time for Santa's gifts..

Not long to go now, I'm sure everyone of us are very excited about Christmas.

It's Christmas once again! Are we all getting ready for our Christmas party, buying our secret Santa's gifts for mistletoe kisses and for togetherness, or finding recipes for our Christmas bake?

Just before all the Christmas madness, let's us all look back and think about the last 12 months and I guess all of us would like to know how 2007 was for us.

For me? Erm.. 2007 was a year of change, of discovery, of new beginnings and needed closures, it's been a year of making new friends, losing old ones, and I'd met some great people and some not so great people, and I learned to find my way around and judge people better. It's also been a time of rekindling old friendships that were lost for one reason or another. It has been a year of laughter, as well as tears, times of trials and times of triumphs. Each experience has been a growing experience and a memory that will stay with me forever.

I'm a year older now. It's hard for me to believe that another year has come and gone, and I’m another year older. I know I will see more friends go separate directions from the path my life is going. I know I will have my heart broken a few more times before I find the happiness that I hope for. I know that I have not achieve much of the dreams I want in my life. But, I will never give up the feeling of youth I have inside and the dreams I still strive for. And, I know that there's someone who are closest to me will see how much I need him and he'll always be with me, encouraging me, conforming me and supporting me. And, I believe I will see my dreams, my goals for life continue to become realities.

And before I go, to all of those who have been there for me over this past year, thank you for your friendship, your encouragement and your love. For my new friends, thank you for the smiles you put on my face with your wit and charm. To those I may have let down, I am truly sorry, and to those who have made me sad, I forgive you. I feel truly fortunate to have you all in my life and I raise my glass to each and every one of you, sharing the joys of this merry occasion with all of you. Cheers.

"Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all of you, wishing all of you a great success and happiness for the year ahead and we'll see each others in 2008!"

Anyway, do come and visit my page often, and become a 'fan' of Little-queen. And, if you guys have any feedback for me, why not post it on my side? Whether it’s good or bad, I always love to know what you’re thinking, let's me know.. ^^

Time passed..

I caught myself a strange feeling, by seeing the secondary students who wearing school uniform walking and passing in front of me, seeing that they fooling each others, laughing and then crossing the road.

Sudden, the years slid back in a twinkling of my eyes, and I miss my primary and secondary school life, I feel that myself did not really make the best use of my past school life and enjoy it thoroughly.

And now, I so envy of them who just passed in front of me just a moment ago, and I so wanted to tell them, and ask them to make great use and enjoy their school life thoroughly.

Recalled back to my college life, looking at the pictures took with my college mate which store in my desktop, I started to miss them, started to miss the time we spent, and wondering did I make the best use and enjoy the time we spent together thoroughly.

Now, I was in times long passed by, I passed my 24 birthday which celebrated with my beloved friends and my dearest one, Elvin no longer ago, I am 24 now.. I must learn to make use of the time to its maximum and do not waste any precious time of mine, I have waste 24 years and how many years left do I really have?

Time is precious, every sunrise and sunset, a day is gone behind, even if one cries for it, it will not return. Time waits for no man but time surely will make us old men..

Coffee or Cup?

Friends, read an article about coffee or cup, so thought of sharing this article with you guys, happy reading and enjoy our life as it comes.

"The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect."

A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

The professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups. Then you began eyeing each other's cups."

Now consider this, said the professor, "Life is the coffee, the jobs, the money and the position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us. Enjoy your coffee!"

The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Four things to take note of in life.
1. Live simply
2. Love generously
3. Care deeply
4. Speak kindly

So, start shine a light and enjoy your Coffee this morning!! Cheers ^^

Thank you..

This isn't the time to brag about my new job, it's the time for thanking, thank to them (my ex-boss, ex-lady boss, ex-managers and ex-colleagues) who gave me direction, guidance, tender care, added comfort and warmth in the working atmosphere at Steven Lim & Associates (my ex-office). It's been the source of great personal and career satisfaction for me in the past 2 years, and I am grateful. I may want more than anything to show you guys once, thank you guys.

In the hurried rush of days, I know I never told you guys that how much you guys means to me. You guys entered my life with tender care, added comfort and warmth. And, you guys have become part of my life, my world now. I think I will miss you guys a lots when you guys no more being around me.

Within my being, my life or my heart, your name will always hang right beside your smiling face. Remembering how we build our friendship in the office, it made me smile and it was part of the precious moments for me in my life.

And, thank again for the entertainment, lunch and gifts that you guys spent for blessing me, fare well with me.

Thank again, Chai Yi, Christy, May Syn, Jezz and Eric, for wishing me a bright undertaking in future with the naughty boy lamp, it's cute, love it so much.

Rashida, thank you for the cup that you bought me, that my new job is my cup of tea..

It's not overkill to say thank again, right? So say it again, thank you, Mr Chew, Mrs Chew, Ms Fock, Ms June, Ravi, Odelia, Sammy, Kamini, Chai Yi, Christy, Rashida, Dila, May Syn, Jezz and Eric, and all my ex-collegues, Hean, Siow, Siao Hong, Bryan, Loke, Kerry and Myan for the precious moments you guys gave. Thank.

Is it my Job Desired?

I been going to several job sites last month, JobStreet.com, JobsDB.com, JenJobs.com, and some other more, searching for the job that I desire, that I dream of, looking for a meaningful employment for myself.

With the intention to have myself equipped with all the financial expertise and strategic ability as to make giant leaps in the complexity business world nowadays, I wish to gain enough experiences for myself with all real life management skills as to develop an understanding of the meaning and relevance of figures, facts and information which critical to business success.

I been working in an office in conducting statutory audit and finalizing audit reports, preparing full set of accounts manually or computerise, preparing basic income tax computation and other other tax compliance works, for various companies for 2 years. Besides, I do handle internal accounting functions such as reconciliation of accounts, preparation of accounting journal entries, payment vouchers and receipt vouchers as well as handle multi-task administration functions such as monthly payroll records, data sorting and filing. Do my working experiences as so were really valuable? Well, to me, absolutely yes! It will make a larger leaps in my next job! What I mean is I can get a good pay for them.

But it’s time for a change.. So, I guess I'll just blurt it out, I'm going to different kind of work I've been doing. And, thank god that I could get myself a reasonable pay although I knew nothing of the work. I made a promise that I will learn, improve and to keep up a good work, and not to give up easily although it's hard, because I know, it will make up a large part of my identity as to make giant leaps in my future job. Sounds trivial, I know, but I think these are very desirable things.

For the coming work, I was responsible for production budget review and cost monitoring, preparing monthly variance analysis and reports on the progress and performance for each project to management, processing and controlling production payment, monitoring cash advances for the Production Team, preparing weekly production cash flow projection, identify process weaknesses, recommend and implement effective cost control measure, check and review data entry prepared by Costing Assistants, assisting in production funds planning, compiling the operating budget, project feasibility studies and evaluations or any any ad-hoc projects as and when required.

I know this work is different and difficult than being a good schmooser at networking events and it's carried a big responsibilities. It's more than being sociable at any parties, more than being nice and sweet. But, I know, I will have this unique skills as I go along. And, I know, as these type of thing happens over and over, It will just comes naturally for me.

Bless and pray for me that I will doing well and enjoy my new journey. Hope it's will be your delight to hear of my success in future that I'm doing well. And, I do appreciate all the blessings and encouragements gave to me when I were first blurted it out. Thank guys.

Let's Help End World Hunger

Ten million people die every year of hunger and hunger-related diseases. Only eight percent are the victims of high-profile earthquakes, floods, droughts and wars. The rest are often forgotten. Who are they? They are hungry people in developing countries who don't make the headlines and most of us probably won't know that they are 820 million in total, more than the combined populations of the United States, Canada and the European Union.

What if you knowing that each word you get right through a vocabulary game could help feed 820 million hungry people around the world, will you get a right word for them?

Well, at FreeRice, each word you get right, you have already donated 10 grains of rice through the United Nations to help all the end world hunger. I did. I have already donated 5470 grains of rice, and I will keep donate more, what's about you?

Whether you are CEO of a large corporation or a street child in a poor country, improving your vocabulary can improve your life. It is a great investment in yourself. Perhaps even greater is your donated rice makes in hungry human beings, enabling them to function and be productive. It's even precious when you knowing that somewhere in the world, a person is eating rice that you helped provide.

For your information, the rice is paid for by the advertisers whose names you see on the bottom of your vocabulary screen. Through their advertising at FreeRice, these companies support both learning and reducing hunger. Thank to them and FreeRice.

So, what are you waiting now? Let's play the vocabulary game at FreeRice and feed a hungry person.

So it all begins again..

Yeah, you see, I'm blogging again after a month. Been busy with work, social and date. Never thought of I'm free now at this very moment and I blogging again, right? Yeah, never say never. I love blogging actually. The idea of pouring out my heart, my soul and my thoughts and guts all over this vast space called the Internet.

Well then, where should I begin? Anyway, yeah, never say never, exciting stuff lies ahead..

Warren Buffet's Philosophies

Warren Buffet, the second richest man after Bill Gates.

His advice to young people:

"Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself and Remember:
A. Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.
B. Live your life as simple as you are.
C. Don't do what others say, just listen them, but do what you feel good.
D. Don't go on brand name; just wear those things in which u feel comfortable.
E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on them who really in need rather.
F. After all it's your life then why give chance to others to rule our life."

I will buy his original book one day I guess, I love his philosophies very much =P

Life and Love

I read a touching story about Love and Life in one of the forward mails, it's meaningful and touching, so thought of sharing the story over here.

"My husband is an engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about Love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce. 'Why?' he asked and shocked. 'I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!' I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: 'What can I do to change your mind?' Somebody said it right. It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes, I slowly answered: 'Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind. Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?' He said: 'I will give you your answer tomorrow.' My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes...

My dear, 'I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further...' This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

'When you use the computer you always mess up the software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs torush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your 'good friend' approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes andstories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face.

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do. I could not pick that flower yet, and die.'

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting and as I continue on reading. 'Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for me, I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk.'

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread. Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does,and I have decided to leave the flower alone."

The moral of this story:
When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form.

Flowers and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands. And that's Life.

The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.

Love is not just between two lovers, husband and wife, it also encompass mother, father, siblings, sisters and brothers, friends and neighbors.

That's Life and Love.

Warmth in Relationship

Gotta a story from a forward mail, it's really worth reading, so thought of sharing this story with you guys.

"A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes.

When the boy was around two years old, one morning, the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office, so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital. He died.

The mother was stunned! She was terrified how she was going to face her husband. When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words, 'I am with you Darling'.

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her."

The moral of this story:
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. But how many of us can act like the husband?

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. So, take off all our envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And we will find things are actually not as difficult as we think.

Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.

It's not the will to win, but the will to prepare to win that makes the difference.

Fortune Cookie of Mine

Guess what message inside I get from a Fortune Cookie last night?

Well, for those who don't know what's Fortune Cookie, Fortune Cookie is a delicate, crisp cookie, which made from flour, sugar, butter, vanilla and milk, that baked around a fortune, a piece of paper with words or maybe a list of lucky numbers so called lottery numbers.

The message inside my Fortune Cookie - "Friend is a very rare jewel. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed."

Argg.. The message inside just making me missing my friends that I have long lost contact with them.

Yeah. Friend is a very rare jewel. They make me smile and encourage me to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their heart to me. Every little hello, every little smile, every little helping hand just conform me.

I don't know how our friendship happens or when it gets started, but I know you guys are the most precious gift god gave me! Thanks you guys for being part of my life and I will do always remember you guys and miss you guys!